A 12-week group coaching program (cohort-based) for anxious, high-achieving perfectionists who are tired of living with chronic self-doubt, performance-based self-worth, and a simmering undercurrent of anxiety.
6 live group coaching calls (90 minutes each) - Every other week (day/time will depend on cohort’s availability)
6 prerecorded lessons with corresponding deep dive practices
9 step methodology
At a Glance:
Small group format for peer support
Private Facebook group
Weekly accountability
Emphasis on a warm, collaborative approach to identifying & healing underlying issues
THE PROGRAM
Anxious to Anchored
If You Look Like You’re Doing Fine — But Feel Like You’re Barely Holding It Together
You’re competent, capable, successful.
You handle things. You figure it out. You keep going.
And yet—
Your mind doesn’t shut off.
Your body never really relaxes.
You second-guess yourself constantly.
You feel guilty resting, saying no, or needing help.
And there’s this quiet, persistent sense that you’re one misstep away from disappointing everyone.
That’s not a personality flaw.
It’s not a lack of willpower.
And it’s definitely not because you’re “too sensitive.”
It’s a nervous system that learned, very early on, that being alert, helpful, and in control was the safest way to survive.
I know this both professionally and personally.
I work with high-functioning adults every day who are exhausted by anxiety that doesn’t look like panic attacks—but shows up as overthinking, perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, and relentless self-doubt.
And I’ve lived it.
Why Insight Alone Hasn’t Fixed This
You may already understand why you’re like this.
You’ve read the books.
You’ve been to therapy.
You’ve listened to the podcasts.
And still, your body reacts before your brain can catch up.
That’s because about 90% of your decisions and reactions are driven by the subconscious mind, not logic.
And the subconscious doesn’t respond to insight alone, it responds to felt safety.
You don’t “think” your way out of survival patterns.
You retrain them.
High-functioning anxiety isn’t just a mindset.
It’s a learned physiological state, wired through early experiences, stored in the nervous system, and reinforced over time.
Which is why you can look confident on the outside…
and feel like you’re constantly bracing on the inside.
The Beliefs Running the Show (Even If You’d Never Say Them Out Loud)
Most people don’t walk around thinking, “Love has to be earned.”
But their bodies act like it’s true.
These beliefs aren’t conscious thoughts, they’re implicit emotional memories:
Love has to be earned → so you overachieve and never feel “good enough.”
My needs don’t matter → so you over-give and quietly resent everyone.
It’s not safe to relax → so rest feels uncomfortable or even wrong.
I’m too much → so you stay quiet, agreeable, and contained.
If I disappoint people, I’ll be abandoned → so you avoid conflict at all costs.
I can’t trust myself → so every decision turns into analysis paralysis.
I’m only safe when I’m in control → so uncertainty feels intolerable.
You didn’t choose these beliefs.
They formed in environments where being attuned, responsible, or invisible helped you cope.
They worked then.
They’re costing you now.
What Changes When You Stop Treating Anxiety Like the Problem
This work isn’t about “calming down” or becoming some unbothered version of yourself.
It’s about moving from:
living in constant self-monitoring
to self-trust
from emotional reactivity
to emotional resilience
from performance-based self-worth
to an unshakeable sense of confidence
When you address anxiety at the nervous system + belief level, something shifts:
You stop needing external validation to feel okay.
You can rest without guilt.
You make decisions without spiraling.
You feel emotions without judging them.
You show up as yourself — without bracing for rejection.
Not because life becomes stress-free.
But because your system no longer interprets everything as a threat.
The Process (What We Actually Do Inside This Work)
This program follows a clear, structured methodology, because healing doesn’t come from vague insight. It comes from repatterning.
You’ll learn how to:
Recognize the Root
Understand how early family/peer dynamics and unmet emotional needs shaped your anxiety, and why your coping strategies once made sense.Build Self-Awareness Without Self-Attack
Spot the thought patterns, shame loops, and false guilt that keep you stuck, without turning it into another thing you’re “doing wrong.”Regulate the Nervous System
Use evidence-based tools (vagus nerve support) to bring your body out of constant alert, so your brain can actually change.Heal the “Not Enough” Wound
Work directly with toxic shame and internalized criticism, replacing them with a more accepting & compassionate internal voice.Set Boundaries Without the Spiral
Learn how to say no, express needs, and tolerate disappointment—without guilt, panic, or over-explaining.Reconnect With What You Want
Clarify values, redefine success, and make decisions from a place of alignment instead of fear.Build Emotional Resilience
So setbacks don’t send you into collapse or self-blame.Experience Real Connection
Not “the strong one” version of you—but the honest, vulnerable one.
You're worth investing in.
You're worth investing in.
This Is for You If…
You’re tired of managing anxiety instead of resolving what’s underneath it
You feel successful but chronically tense, guarded, or emotionally drained
You intellectualize everything — but still feel stuck
You want science-based work that includes both psychology & physiology
You’re ready to stop over-functioning and start trusting yourself again
This isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about finally letting your subconscious survival patterns catch up to the life you’ve already built.
And doing it with guidance from someone who understands the psychology, the physiology, and what it’s like to live inside this pattern.
You don’t need to try harder.
You need a different life hack.
And that’s exactly what this work offers.
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